The Power of Choice

Mexican or Italian for dinner?  The mountains or the beach for your vacay?  The little black dress or the sexy red one for that special date? Do you wear the power pantsuit or that designer dress for that important job interview? 

At times it seems our life is just an endless loop of choices.

Don’t even get me started on the anxiety of making…gasp!...the wrong choice. 

If you’re here, I’m going to assume that you are ready to move forward with your life. My mission is to help you create an amazing post-divorce life and it begins with you making one key important step.  This is the Big Kahuna.

Choose. It.

Yup.  How simple is that?  No magical incantations, clicking your heels three times or waiting for the planets to align.  Make a choice to flip the switch and go from surviving and just getting by to truly living.

When you think about it, there’s only one person responsible for the quality your life and that’s you.  

Right now, at this very moment make a conscious commitment to choose to create, design, and have the life of your dreams.   Decide that you’re not going to allow anger, blame, and resentment from your past cling to your ankles as you move forward.  You’ve got to shake those suckers loose ‘cause they’re only gonna slow you down and throw you off your new found groove.

You can start by shifting your focus from what you don’t want, to what you do want.  

Maybe you’ve always wanted to start your own business.  Rather than focusing your attention on your current job situation, start researching the business you've been dreaming about.  Reach out and talk to people who are already doing what you want to do.  If they did it, so can you.  As the saying goes, what you focus on expands.

Spend some time on getting clear on how you want your life to look like, a year, 3 years or even 5 years from now.  Choose that amazing life for yourself. Reach out and grab it, it’s yours for the taking.  Trust me, I’ve been there. Your new hopes and dreams will eventually replace the ones you’ve left behind.

Talk more to your friends and family about what you’re looking forward to, rather than the muck you left behind.  Let the past stay in the past.  Say no to the drama and yes to your awesome new life.

This is work.  I’ll admit it and changing thought patterns can be challenging, but the rewards are worth every minute of it.  I speak from experience.  

Pop quiz time!  So which choice feels better to you?  Choosing to feel like crap because your marriage ended and they did you wrong or feeling thrilled, joyful, and looking forward to your exciting new life?

The choice is up to you.